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Cohabitation is an emotional and physical intimate relationship which includes a common living place and which exists without the benefit of legal or religious sanction.
The cohabiting population, although inclusive of all ages, is mainly made up of those between the ages of 25 and 34[1]. Several common reasons that lead couples to decide to live together include: wanting to test compatibility or establish financial security before marrying, a desire to live as married when same-sex marriages are not legal, living with someone before marriage as a way to avoid divorce, a way for polygamists to avoid anti-polygamy laws, a way to avoid the higher income taxes paid by some two-income married couples (in the United States), and seeing little difference between the commitment to live together and the commitment to marriage.
Some couples prefer cohabitation because it does not legally commit them for an extended period of time, and because it is easier to establish and dissolve. In some countries (such as Scotland) and some states in the United States, such cohabitations can be viewed legally as common-law marriages, either after the duration of a specified period or the birth of a child of the couple, or if the couple consider one another as husband and wife and behave accordingly. (This helps provide the surviving partner a legal basis for inheriting the deceased's belongings in the event of the death of their cohabiting partner.)
In most States of the United States, there is no legal registration or definition of cohabitation, so demographers have developed various methods of identifying cohabitation and measuring its prevalence. Most important of these is the Census Bureau, which currently describes an "unmarried partner" as "A person age 15 years and over, who is not related to the householder, who shares living quarters, and who has a close personal relationship with the householder."[2] Before 1995, the Bureau euphemistically identified any "unrelated" opposite-sex couple living with no other adults as POSSLQs, or Persons of Opposite Sex Sharing Living Quarters.[3], and they still report these numbers to show historical trends. However, such measures should be taken loosely, as researchers report that cohabitation often does not have clear start and end dates, as people move in and out of each other's homes and sometimes do not agree on the definition of their living arrangement at a particular moment in time.[4]
In 2005, the U.S. Census Bureau reported 4.85 million cohabiting couples, up more than 1,000 percent from 1960, when there were 439,000 such couples. A 2000 study found that more than half of newlyweds lived together, at least briefly, before walking down the aisle.
Traditionally in the Western world, a man and a woman who lived together without being married were socially shunned. In some jurisdictions, this was illegal. Other jurisdictions create a Common-law marriage status when two people of the opposite sex live together for a prescribed period of time. Today, cohabitation is a common pattern among younger people, especially those who desire marriage but whose financial situation temporarily precludes it, or wish to prepare for what married life will be like before actually getting married. More and more couples choose to have long term relationships without marriage, and co-habitate as a permanent arrangement.
Opposition to cohabitation comes mainly from conservative religious and family ethics groups. The primary argument against cohabitation is its higher risk of divorce when a cohabitating couple decides to marry. Cohabitation is seen also as a living arrangement detrimental to the stability of a long-term relationship (marriage would be the acceptable alternative). Opponents of cohabitation feel the lack of commitment that would otherwise be associated with marriage encourages a sense of disconnect between the couple. Marriage is seen as a total and unconditional commitment that strengthens a couple's bond, a bond that cannot be found in couples who choose to 'test the waters'. Other opponents to cohabitation feel that cohabitation is harmful to both partners; they see it as especially dangerous for a woman who may become pregnant and be left by the boyfriend. Also there has been expressed concern that the short length of cohabitations (the average first cohabitation in the UK lasts two years) provides a less suitable environment for raising children.[5][6]
Some places, including the state of California, have laws that recognize cohabiting couples as "domestic partners". In California, such couples are defined as people who "have chosen to share one another's lives in an intimate and committed relationship of mutual caring," including having a "common residence."[7] This recognition led to the creation of a "Domestic Partners Registry", which is available to same-sex couples and opposite-sex couples in which at least one of the partners is age 62 or older, granting them limited legal recognition and some rights similar to those of married couples.
Decades ago, it was illegal in every state for adult lovers to live together without being married. Today, on the other hand, just seven (7) states (North Carolina, Mississippi, Virginia, West Virginia, Florida, Idaho and Michigan) still criminalize cohabitation by opposite-sex couples, although anti-cohabitation laws are generally not enforced. [5] Many legal scholars believe that in light of in Lawrence v. Texas, 539 U.S. 558 (2003) such laws making cohabitation illegal are unconstitutional (North Carolina Superior Court judge Benjamin Alford has struck down the North Carolina law on that basis).[8]